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Why Missing My Goal Was Awesome – BikeMS NYC 2019

I just attended the award ceremony for BikeMS 2019, and for the 6th year I’ve made the top 200 fundraisers. Each year I try to exceed both my dollar goal and my ranking from the previous year.

While it’s “not a contest” there’s a certain push in raising more money – it’s more dollars for research, and just a little closer to a world free of MS.

I set myself a high goal this year and thanks to all of you, I achieved beat it with $3,785. That’s incredible, and a testament to how much my friends and family have supported this ride each and every year. I can’t thank you all enough for your monetary and moral support.

However, I didn’t achieve every goal. Last year’s $3,500 fundraising total was enough for #94 in the top 200, but this year’s $3,785 only got me to #96. For a moment, I was disappointed, but then I realized this was awesome! Why is not making a goal something to celebrate?

It just means that other people raised EVEN MORE this year. Setting the bar higher, raising more money across each team means the whole event is more successful, and that everyone is working harder to raise money for this cause. So, I may have failed to ‘advance in rank’ but the top 200 is working even harder, and it gives me even more excitement about the 2020 ride. Fundraising starts in a few weeks. Get ready to rock BikeMS NYC 2020!

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What Will You Do in a Crisis?

Howard Greenstein on WABC

In 2006, I was running management programs at NYU’s School of Continuing and Professional Studies (now NYU SPS). A new program we were rolling out was “Emergency Management and Disaster Recovery.” I wanted to learn more on the subject, and was invited to FEMA’s Emergency Management Institute in Maryland for a conference of educators.

I can’t say I remember everything about that conference, but one speaker stood out. I distinctly remember Ted Buffington’s talk about what happens to people in an emergency. Most people’s response during a crisis is to either Focus, Fold or Freeze™, according to Ted (who owns that trademark). The framework is simple. When something serious happens (fire, terror incident, someone is choking or has a heart attack) are you going to be the person that focuses on what to do and how to help? Will you panic and fall apart – fold? Or will you be a “deer in headlights” waiting for the inevitable?

Emergency workers are trained to focus. You don’t want your police, firefighter or EMT unsure of what to do when disaster strikes. We trust these professionals to have great training, and we respect their ability to help us when we need it. I met lots of incredible people who had saved countless lives at the FEMA training conference.

I don’t recall doing any special training with Ted, but that framework of the mind always stuck with me. What would I do in a crisis? Would I run or freeze? Or could I focus and figure out the situation, and do the right thing? Last month, I found out the answer.

I became a “local town hero” by helping a man stuck on active train tracks out of his car. I witnessed a car swerving off the platform onto the ground-level train tracks at Suffern station on March 16th. This man should never have been driving on the platform but he was confused and went right past the ticket vending machines onto the tracks. I had no idea when the next train was coming. The person inside was unable to open the driver-side door since his car was too close to the concrete platform. While calling 911 and then NJ Transit, and asking people on the platform to watch out for me, I ran out onto the tracks and helped him out the passenger side. The whole time I was conscious of the possibility of a train coming. Got my pulse rate up for sure!

Car on Train Tracks

He was an older gent, and I helped him out of the car, across the snow on the tracks, and onto the platform, and right to a Suffern Police Department officer. (You can see my footprints in the snow between the tracks in the picture above.)

Thankfully, the next scheduled train was 25 minutes later – but there was every possibility that equipment was being shifted or a freight would go by. Kudos to Suffern Police for being there in about 30 seconds (no joke) and to NJ Transit (1-888-TIPS NJT – they say it on every train ride, I actually had to call it!) for stopping the trains. You can watch the TV coverage of this here via WABC 7 NYC.   

People keep coming up to me to ask about this. I can’t explain it other than to say, I was there, and I wasn’t going to watch something terrible happen to this old man. Sure, I called 911, and I had people looking out for me. But when it came down to it, I focused, made a plan and helped a person in danger. Now I know. The police, fire services, and EMTs are heroes who face danger constantly. I was glad I could pinch-hit till they arrived.

When trouble happens, will you focus, or fold or freeze? Ted has some good, but older, resources on the To Achieve site

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Hillman Awards 2014

Here’s my Storify of the event.

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CT Challenge 2013 Fundraiser

BikeCTChallenge_logoIn the past, I’ve helped my friends to Blame Drew’s Cancer out of existence, and even to  Stand Up to Cancer. For the second summer in a row, I’ll be taking on cancer sitting down. That’s right, on my bum – for 50 miles.

Once again, I’m joining my friends supporting Team Norwalk Hospital – Wittingham Cancer Center and the Bike CT Challenge  to empower all the cancer survivors in my life – And yours.

Proceeds from my ride will fund unique programs and research to help cancer survivors through exercise, nutrition and psychosocial support. Cancer survivors need follow-up care for life and I am helping them. The research being done will benefit everyone who’s had to go through chemo and radiation, and find new ways to help survivors get healthy again.

I know lots of people in my family and my life who are battling cancer or who are survivors. You do too. Let’s honor them.

You can DONATE HERE or use the link  **.

Oh, an if riding 50 miles on July 27th in Fairfield, CT, sounds like a lot of fun to you, click the link above and click “Join my team.” We have cool shirts too.


**For you folks who prefer to know what you’re clicking on – that translates to the secure donation page on for my ride:

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A Little Philanthropy Smackdown

Untitled My friends and business colleagues know I’m passionate about nonprofits, causes and philanthropy.

For the last few months, I’ve been working with a social giving website called One4All, first helping start their online presences, and now acting as an advisor. One4All Members can donate to any US-based 501(c)3 organization and the non-profit receives the full amount (unlike other sites that may take 5-7% from the charity). It’s free to join, you can donate to your favorite non-profits, support friends’ causes, and create your own fundraisers. Your account saves your donation history forever.